Friday, December 7, 2012

Christmas Time {Photo of the Boys}

A miracle. The boys are napping. At.The.Same.Time!

So I decided to blog.

We took photos of the boys this morning. My typical smiling little baby wanted nothing to do with smiles this morning. Lets blame the teeth. However, my little boy who never wants to touch other people let alone smile for the camera gave me lots of grins. I'll take the rare shift.

Here are some of our favorites.

News on Carter: He starts school next week. SCHOOL! With a bus ride and teachers, the whole gambit. I am so so grateful for this early intervention program. Some of my friends have expressed interesting feelings on wishing their child could go to preschool sponsored by the school district. Let me assure you, these children are not learning the same things a neurotypical child would learn at your everyday preschool. His studies will consist on learning to speak clearly and in sentences (most children Carter's age already know how to do this. They learn on their own how to do so, where Carter has to be taught how to say every single sentence, in every single situation.) They will be learning how to stay focused for 20 minutes at a time for a project. Carter can't sit still for 5 minutes just to eat. He has to get down from his chair and run around in circles to release some of his anxious energy. Every day. Every meal. He will also work on using generalities in objects. Such as being able to look at two different type of animals and being able to discern which one is larger. He can't do that. He will also learn how to look at a picture of say a person reading a book and instead of seeing objects in the picture (such as a clock in the background or the book the boy is holding), he will learn how to see the picture of the boy reading a book. To sum it all up, Carter needs to be trained on how to learn like a neurotypical child instinctively learns from their environment. It takes a million gallons of patience, in depth explanations, constant reinforcement with everything he does and says on a daily basis. Its a load of work, but in the long run, well worth the effort put in.
Carter understands and processes information in the world around him so very differently from the way you or I do. A lot of you have asked me if Carter will grow out of a lot of his tendencies. Let me explain for the masses right now: He will NOT outgrow these tendencies. He will be need to be trained on how to turn down his tendencies, but the need and the want to do them, will always be there. Much like breathing is a normal action we don't even think about, it just happens. Carter's flapping and kicking of the feet, his running in circles or back and forth, his constant reassurance of what is happening, are all instinctive. Wrapping your head around this can be difficult. And frankly, you probably won't even see some of this due to the fact you need to see Carter over a course of a whole day to see what we go through all day long. Its exhausting, overwhelming and down right a lot of work. But if you saw how his face lights up when he realizes how he has communicated his feelings or his wants to us for the first time because he didn't know how to put into words before, and we just taught him a sentence to get this accomplished. Its priceless. I realize now how very different Carter is from other children his same age. How different he learns. How much of a sponge he is to intellectual intelligence but basic common aspects of life that children just pick up instinctually, (such as speech, and sentence structure, and imaginary play) has to come at such hard work and repetition to Carter. Please keep in mind, I am not sad about Carter and our recent discoveries on his learning abilities. Its actually fascinating. Each day we are discovering how much Carter knows and how brilliant his mind is. He is incredibly smart. He just doesn't know how to speak his intelligence. I am not complaining about the work we have to do to help him reach the level of a normal 3 year old. I just want those of you who are interested to understand what it is we are going through.

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